❓Do you over-apologize?
➡️ It’s appropriate to apologize for genuine wrongs (such as breaking the Ten Commandments).
However, if someone is simply showing us love or care – this can actually diminish the gift they’re trying to give. 🎁
Why? 🤔
When someone helps or supports us, they aren’t creating a debt we need to repay. They’re expressing love 💞.
Christ showed love through His sacrifice ✝️. We don’t owe Jesus an apology for His sacrifice; we owe Him thanks 🙌.
Similarly, when friends and family support us, the appropriate response isn’t “I’m sorry for being a burden 😔” but “thank you for loving me 💖.”
📜 The Ten Commandments serve two purposes: they show us what sin is and what sin isn’t.
If you haven’t sinned but feel guilty 😟, that’s often the devil stirring up shame 😈 where none should exist.
There’s a difference between wronging someone and being someone’s burden.
When we over-apologize for being “burdens”, we’re often expressing a deeper belief that we’re not worthy of being loved or cared for. 💔
✨ We are worth more than gold or silver ✨; we’re worth the holy and precious blood of Jesus. 🍷
The path forward isn’t to make ourselves smaller through constant apologies but through gratitude 🙏.
Test guilty feelings by asking the following questions:
✅ Have I actually broken a commandment? ❓
✅ If not, am I diminishing someone’s gift 🎁 by treating it as a debt?
✅ Could “thank you” better honor both their love 💝 and my worth in Christ?
🧡 Remember: You can recognize yourself as a sinner while still accepting that you’re worthy of love.
The gift here is that you are measured by what was paid for you.💰 That’s to be received with joy and not embarrassment. 😊
Contributor Rev. Harrison Goodman is the Higher Things Content Executive.
Contributor Amelia is a college student and HT’s assistant webmaster.
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